I've been trying to figure out a way to encourage B (3 years old) to help out around the house without making it a requirement. Six months ago I'd ask B "Do you want to fill up Max's water bowl for me?" "Ok, sure!". Now I get "No thanks, you can do it.".
Together we brainstormed ways he could help his family and we made a list. I told him he could put an X (he changed that to a circle) each time he helps with one of these things and when the whole page is filled up he could pick something fun to do (park, lunch date, game, etc.).
Well, it didn't work! Sometimes he is all about helping out, but the other times he really isn't interested even with the incentives. Today I said, "B, do you want to feed Max for me and then you can cross it off on your chart?". He responded with, "No, I already crossed that off the other day so you can just do it.".